Abigail’s Pet Project

The Reasons Why I Went to See a Pro-Domme

September 9th, 2006

This was back in the late nineties. I had an adventurous sex-life with my girlfriend of the time and we’d been getting into some borderline kinky activities with me, for instance, cuffing her wrists together, spanking her etc etc. And eventually we flipped the roles a couple of times and it was like a bomb went off in my head, because I was somewhat overwhelmed by how much I enjoyed that.

The specific coincidence of factors in play at the time that lead to my wanting to and being able to go see a professional dominatrix were as follows:

1) Summarizing my preamble: I had through fantasy exploration with my girlfriend discovered how turned on I was by playing the submissive role. I had before then mainly been dominant with her during sex when we did any d/s type interaction.

2) It was difficult for her to be the domme mainly because I was falling into, what has for me become, a classic trap of wanting to be treated a certain way when I’m horny and not wanting that at all when I’m not.

3) My girlfriend was okay on me seeing a prodomme (as long as I told her every little detail about it afterwards!)

4) With a professional session, the submission need only exist for the duration of that session. I.e. it was something I could walk away from at the end and need not return to again until I was ready, or not at all if that was my wish.

5) I found a pro-domme that, frankly, turned me on . I had searched extensively on the internet and come across numerous pro-dommes that seemed, to put it kindly, to have deep seated issues with men, but ultimately I found the website of Mistress X. She advertised as specializing in sensual seductive domination, and seemed knowledgeable, intelligent and was physically rather stunning.