Abigail’s Pet Project

Recently I fell asleep while chatting online with Abigail. She had been in a very playful sexy mood and I fell asleep. As you might imagine this didn’t go over too well. It’s probably unrelated but the next day she sent me an email payment request for $250. I paid it.

Then later that evening she said, “Btw thankyou for your payment, it’ll be interesting to see what you go through to make August’s payment, especially since August is almost upon us”.

It’s a measure of my particular sexuality that that sentence drove me into an aroused frenzy. Note the absence of words such as “anal”, “pussy” , “ass to mouth”, “cum-whore” or even “phone sex”.

Instead we see “payment”. But of course it’s not the what of it, it’s the how of it. “Presumption” is a neglected aspect of D/s play.

For instance, presuming in this case that the sub realizes he is now to pay a monthly subscription. The heat is in the fact that it’s not up for discussion, it’s not even presented directly as a fact, even the word subscription is not used. She does not say, “By the way I’ve decided that from now on you are to pay me a monthly subscription of …”, This is communicating the same information - the ‘what’ of it. But it’s doing it in, for me and my warped sensibility at least, a dull and unsexy way.

In Abigail’s case she is simply stating it in a way that presumes complete obedience, and also in an indirect but powerful way saying “I know we didn’t discuss this, I know I’m not even stating clearly what I mean, but we both know what I mean, and look, life has changed for you once again, just a little”.

I think about these things far too much. I hope by writing about it I haven’t taken the fun out of it for anyone because this ‘presumption’ thing, it can be hard to do, but it’s very hot when done well.

Footnote:

And it’s interesting that “Presumption” in a sub is about as unsexy as it can get for a certain kind of domme.

A presumption that a domme will talk to you if you talk to her

A presumption that paying for a service gives you any rights to dictate what happens

It’s the presumption that kills the heat, not what it is that’s being presumed. Presumption and Submission are not really all that compatible, whereas Presumption and Dominance are entirely compatible.

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