Puppy Tim has been my play puppy, my pay puppy and my whining, begging, denied puppy. Now he is also my shoe puppy. Every week he is now tasked with the job of finding his owner new shoes. He’s been buying shoes for me off and on for months now, but we’re starting a structured shoe-hunt. My little pet must search online for high heels that he hopes I will like and submit his findings weekly. If he’s done his job properly, I allow him to buy a pair. Little puppies get so excited when you tell them they’re good boys. lol While I wait for the delivery, I tease and deny him until he’s so worked up that he’s begging and yipping. Poor guy isn’t given permission to cum until I have the heels in my possession and like them as much on my feet as I did online. In round two, puppy found the most perfect shoe ever after I told him to look for anything in blue. I loved them so much that he was then allowed to buy the same style in red and black. Perhaps I’ll let him buy the entire line for me in every color.
At the moment, Tim is out of town and I miss my pet. When he gets back, he has an extra task of buying a new leather leash. If you’d like to see the recent purchases he’s made, head to my ‘tributes and gifts’ page and visit the Amazon wishlist link. You’ll see the items I currently want but if you click on the ‘puchased’ drop down link you’ll see my newest shoes. He’s paid for every pair there except for the black sandals. Panty-boy kelli bought those as a parting gift because our session became a bit too intense for him. lol Here’s a picture of the black pumps on my lovely feet.

Over the years I’ve talked to many tease and denial enthusiasts and I’ve found that t&d is one of the few scenarios that works well with game playing. I mean game playing as in traditional dice, cards or board games. Just about any game can be adapted to a tease and denial session. It can be as simple as the winner decides if the submissive is allowed to cum or not. It can be as complicated as multiple “turns”, tasks, days etc. I know of one person that is even selling a game he created. If I remember correctly, it involves marbles of two different colors and a list of rules. If I find the link again (or if someone sends it to me) I’ll post it here.
My favorite games involve counting. Anyone that’s had a t&d session with me knows all about that. Sometimes I’ll count, fast or slow, and you have to stroke along with me. Other times I’ll tell you to stroke FAST while I count to a certain number. In those cases, I don’t always count at a regular rhythm. lol Often the best game ideas come from you. The males that sincerely enjoy being teased mercilessly are often the most creative when it comes to their own denial. They usually end up regretting what they’ve come up with. hahaha One subbie told me about a pyramid game (my name for it since I can’t remember if there’s another name) that he’d read about. I pick a number and you alternate waiting and stroking while I count. For example, I pick the number 20. I start counting: 1 (you stroke once) 2-20 (you wait). 1,2 (you stroke twice) 3-20 (you wait). It sounds fine now, but wait until I’m counting 1-17 (you stroke 17 times) and only wait for the remaining 3 before you’re stroking 18 times and so on. The grunts and moans as you try not to cum before I allow you are music to my ears.
Besides counting, when I’m very much in control, I also enjoy games with random outcomes. I love to tell you how I’m on your side and hope you get to cum when it’s all up to the roll of the dice. Using multiple die can determine how fast you stroke, how many strokes you get, how long you have to wait between strokes and the end result. From just these examples, you get an idea of where this can go. The options are unlimited. For any of you interested in trying this on your own, remember that the games work best when you’re already extremely turned on before beginning. If you’re excited at the thought of me controlling the game (and your cock) then send a message and we’ll set up a call on NiteFlirt.
If anyone knows of other tease and denial games, share them with me. I may post them here or I may just keep them to myself. lol

I was surprised when I first realized how many males prefer their distance domination to happen through emails. I have to admit I get a kick out of knowing your sitting at your computer constantly refreshing the screen hoping to see a new email from me. Then you happily pay to read it. Is there anything as wonderful as NiteFlirt’s pay-to-view mail system? I think not. LOL After doing a little digging, I’ve found out what the attraction is to email-only contact. First there is the antici…pation of a new message. Then you have all of these wonderfully evil emails in your inbox that you can read over and over at your leisure. Lastly, you can indulge in the naughty stuff while at work (or in other less than private places).
I can send tasks, shopping lists, photos, erection inducing paragraphs or even reprimands. You never know what you’ll find until you pay to read. By the way, I really love it when I’ve gotten you all excited just before you’re headed off to a work meeting. Do you grab some papers to hold in front of you as you walk? Do you pray that woody will go down FAST? Do you just saunter right in hoping one of the ladies will notice and giggle? hahaha
I can tease you mercilessly with my exceptional creativity and typing skills. It’s so heart-warming to read your pleading emails. You can be rather creative too when you’re begging for an orgasm. Oh yes, tell me how you can’t stand any more of this torture and then I’ll prove you wrong by making you wait another day (or week). I’ve helped a few chronic masturbators on their way to wanking recovery. As I’ve said before, that release just isn’t as satisfying without my permission.
Then there are the males wanting me to financially dominate them. Our inboxes fill up pretty quickly when I’m toying with you, don’t they? That first reply from me may be pretty cheap. Each successive reply gradually gets more and more expensive. You can’t help it. You have to see what’s inside waiting for you. Maybe you’ll regret the hundreds of dollars you spent on me the next day, but I had my fun. Besides, you’ll be back. You can’t help it.
If you desire general domination, tease and denial or even emails dealing with your specific fetish then start by answering these getting-to-know-you questions in this $5 email:

If you have that trembling feeling in the pit of your stomach after reading about financial domination then you can start by either clicking that $5 email button AND sending a tribute or listening to this recording and emailing me about how you’re now under my spell:

3 Minute recording for $30

There are quite a few reasons you may want me to tease and deny you. 1. you’re a sad loser lacking all social graces and you can’t find a woman that even cares to see your penis, much less fuck you, so why should I treat you any differently? 2. you want to please me and you know how much I enjoy keeping your aroused for as long as possible and then denying you an orgasm. Rinse and repeat. lol 3. you realize how much better that orgasm will feel when you have to wait a very long time for it, never knowing when you’ll finally be rewarded. I step in to help you achieve that since you don’t have enough self control on your own. Of course there are other reasons, but those are the top three that came to mind.
How does cuckolding fit into that? Well, the gist of cuckolding is that the object of your desire is screwing someone (everyone) besides you. Maybe you get to watch. Maybe you get to hear about it afterwards. Maybe you can only imagine what’s going on while you’re left at home. A lucky few of you may even get to help. Fluffers and cream pies, anyone? hahaha Unfortunately, you never get to fuck. Never fucking means never cumming. Sure you can jerk it as you listen to her moan, but does such a weak and pathetic excuse for a man really deserve an orgasm? It’s possible your lack of size makes the woman in your life run off to let a hung stud service her. I think a regimen of constant stroking and a ton of wishful thinking is in order. Cuckolds of the world, all is not lost! Staying constantly hard and showing your devotion daily may earn you that prize you seek. Probably not, but you never know. lol

Today I just want to share a couple of links that were passed on to me. The first is from one of my favorite websites, lingerie sellers, agentprovocateur.com. They’ve had a movie made called “Tied Up at the Office”. The trailer is very *ahem* interesting. lol You do have to register for the site to view it, but I’m sure you won’t mind.
The other link is an ad for the Mini. Let’s see… a tall beauty in head-to-toe black, using a whip, flogger, paddle, feather tickler and crop. She also teases with the keys and I love it when she plays with the antenna. hahaha There’s lots to click on, but if you just hang out you can watch her do different things. Enjoy.
p.s. If you know of any similar online ads, leave a comment to this post.

I haven’t yet gone live with my new NiteFlirt ‘tease and denial’ and ‘foot and shoe fetish’ lines, but I’ve already had a couple of very fun t&d calls. One boy certainly knew what the “denial” part was all about. The other was a little… confused. lol He said he wanted tease and denial but what he really wanted was masturbation control. Yes, puppets, there is a difference and I’ve written about this before. I enjoy both scenarios so if you have any questions, feel free to send an email (the info is on my contact page).
Both puppy tim and whipped jim have purchased gifts for me from my Amazon wishlist. Aren’t they just the sweetest? I now have the mini tripod (thank you, puppy) so I will try to take more photos this week. I have some lovely new shoes to show off. Maybe I’ll eventually get the hang of this new-fangled photo-graphy thing. hahaha In the meantime, here’s the picture of my ass-kicking boots that I promised.

I had the most delicious dream last night. I had a naked man sit on a stool in the middle of a room. There was nothing but hardwood floors and concrete walls around us. I was wearing a sheer top, a black mini skirt, black tights and boots and I had my crop in hand. He could only sit and watch as I walked around him. Then I crouched in front of him and slid a leather harness around his cock and balls. The harness was attached to a metal ring in the floor. I stood up and started teasing his cock with my crop. The best part was that as he got harder, the leash connecting him to the floor got shorter. Eventually he had to slide off the stool and onto his knees. It kept getting shorter until finally he was lying on his stomach on the cold floor. I laughed as he kept turning his head this way and that trying to watch me as I started walking around him again. I began to use my crop on his back, ass and legs and then…. I woke up. grrrrrr I hate it when that happens!
I’m guessing I had this dream because yesterday I took a few pictures while wearing tights and boots. I took some with my crop and some without. Since I’m a horrible photographer (another reason I was so thrilled with the last photo) only a couple turned out. I may post one or two later.

I’ve created new listings for ‘foot and shoe fetish’ and ‘tease and denial’. NF approved them in record time so I’ll go live with them soon. I am in love with the thumbnail picture on the t&d listing. Is it bad to be in love with your own picture? lol I’ll include a larger version here so we can all stare at it together.

I was parked in a Yahoo chatroom the other day. A fellow Domme looked at this blog and took offense to the definition for ‘femdom’ that’s in the upper-left corner. She said that it would lead males to believe a woman’s power was only sexual. Sigh. Well, since I’m not there in person to dominate you 24/7 (critiquing your housekeeping, giving you an allowance, letting you serve me breakfast in bed etc) that means it pretty much IS sexual for the purpose of my website. As the cliche goes, the little head thinks for the big head. When you’re in that state of nirvana where the very thought of following my directions makes you all tingly, then it’s sexual. I always hear comments like: “I get so hard when I think about worshipping your feet”, “I’ve been aching all day waiting for an email from you”, “Please, I’m begging you! May I come for you, Mistress?”, “May I be your living sex toy and please you?” Yep, all sexual. Perhaps it’s me. Perhaps I’m the sexual one. I refuse to deny it. There’s no big, bad, scary Dominatrix here that insists her vagina is off limits. I have a beautiful pussy and I use it against you. Why on earth would I give up such a wonderful teasing tool just to adhere to some old school femdom rulebook? This is my little corner of the internet and I’m the one in charge. I am a dominant woman. I can do what I like.
On a similar note, you’ve probably noticed that I don’t capitalize “me, mine or my”. I don’t need to change English language rules to prove my dominance. I can’t be bothered. I do like it when I receive an email from a sweet submissive boy that went to the trouble to capitalize every “you, you’re and your”. Although it’s not necessary, attention to detail like that makes me smile.

If you look at the upper-left side, you’ll see links under “Important Pages”. I’ve updated my contact page, I’ve added my Amazon wishlist to the gifts/tributes page and I’ve created a new page for my so-called phone sex recordings. In the future there will be pages on financial domination, male chastity, tease and denial, foot fetish, shoe fetish, stocking and pantyhose fetish, cuckolds, puppy play and whatever else strikes my fancy.
Speaking of puppy play, Jasmine has written an excellent blog post on the subject. If that’s someting you’re interested in you should check it out. bdsm puppy play I’m betting she’s an incredibly cute puppy.

Over the past two years I’ve gotten many calls from males that see me mention ‘tease and denial’ (t&d) as one of my favorite types of play. They want to be good boys so they try to please me by saying they want to be teased and denied. I’d say 90% have no clue what they’re asking for. There is a difference, dear puppets, between masturbation control and orgasm DENIAL. Both involve teasing (at least when you’re playing with me) but one is much more delicious than the other. During a masturbation control session, I tell you how to touch yourself. I tell you when to stop and start. I whisper all sorts of naughty things in your ear and if you’re lucky you may even have the chance to hear me pleasure myself. There’s nothing quite like the moans of frustration from you as you’re forced to STOP touching and just listen. hahaha I eventually allow you to orgasm, but only after you’ve begged and pleaded and promised me the world. That’s how I control your masturbation and your orgasm.
Now let’s look at the term ‘tease and denial’. Tease? Yes, we’ve covered that. Denial? Hmmm… The dictionary defines it as “refusal to grant or allow something “. Do you think it hurts me when I refuse to let you orgasm? Of course not. I’m tickled pink when you’re near tears because your balls are aching and you’re so close that one more stroke would send you over the edge. I’m thrilled and excited when you whimper and beg for release. I’m downright affectionate as I deny you day after day after day. I wonder how far I can push you, what you’ll promise me, how deep I can get into your mind and when will you finally break. Oh, don’t give up. After all, I could let you cum at any moment.

I am caring and considerate, but I’m also demanding (some may say spoiled, bratty or bitchy) and I demand to be entertained. I have the most fun with obediant male toys that realize pleasing me will make their lives much more enjoyable. What pleases me the most? Tease and denial(t&d) and male chastity. No matter what other games we play, I will insist on controlling when and if you have an orgasm. Anyone that says submissives are “weak”, have no idea what they’re talking about. It takes some serious will power to stop stroking when every part of your body wants you to continue. Can you imagine how much more intense a cuckold or puppy training session would be if you’ve already waited a day, a week or more without relief? Wouldn’t you like to experience a more meaningful orgasm knowing it was only allowed because you pleased me?
I realize that many males don’t have that level of control. I’m here to help. I will force you to build endurance. I will make you crave that feeling of frustration. You will yearn to hear me say “cum for me” and realize that without that permission, it’s just an ejaculation.

As if there aren’t enough blogs out there, here I am with another. Like most bloggers, I’m narcissistic enough to assume people want to read what I write. Unlike most bloggers, I will be writing what you want to read. You are a submissive male looking for a dominant female. You’re hoping to find a creative domme that understands your fetish or fantasy. You are not able to visit a professional domme, so you need phone, email and online chat to fulfill your needs. You will be forever grateful that you stumbled upon me.
Bookmark this site. Take a look around. Return often in hopes of new features and updates. Join my growing fan base of submissives, cuckolds, human wallets, foot and shoe fetishists and puppies. Take your place beside them under my heel.